Planning your wedding is a lot of fun. You get to try on dresses, taste cake and create a day that really reflects you. However, there are always a few things that crop up and these dilemmas are more common than you might think. So, if you’re wrestling with your table plan, don’t worry because you’re not alone! We’ve solved four wedding planning dilemmas for you so that you can get back to the good stuff as soon as possible.
One of the most important things to keep in mind during the whole wedding planning whirl is that things will happen. You might end up answering LOTS of questions from guests or dashing out on last-minute shopping trips. You could come down with a cold or order the wrong size shoes for your flowergirl. Whatever obstacles get in your way, don’t worry. Yes, they might be tricky to navigate in the short-term, but you’ll still make it to your wedding day, and you’ll love every minute.
But, if we can help you have a smoother run-up to the big day, we’d love to do just that. Read on for the solutions to four wedding planning dilemmas.
Answers to your wedding planning dilemmas
1. Everything surrounding invitations can be tricky. When do you send them and what do you include? And what happens with RSVPs? Well, we suggest sending your invitations sooner rather than later, especially if you’ve not sent save the date cards. Your guests might be planning holidays, or they might need some notice to take time of work or arrange accommodation. Everyone will appreciate having plenty of time to plan and if any guest declines, you’ll also have time to invite someone else.
Include any information that you want with your invitations – gift list details, timings, local hotels and taxi firms for example. The more you can tell guests, the fewer questions you’ll receive! As for RSVPS, you’re sure to have some that are late so set your RSVP date to be a fortnight or so before you actually want final numbers. This gives you some wiggle room and will cut the stress around tardy replies.
2. When it comes to weddings, money can be an uncomfortable subject. You know what style of wedding you’d like but you also know how much you can afford. We’re not here to tell you how much you should spend on your big day, but we would always urge you to be open and honest about your finances. If you set yourselves a budget, try really hard to stick to it. Record honestly how much you’re spending and remember to include everything from stamps and thank you gifts to favours and decorations. Our top tip is to include a 10-15% contingency in your budget so when you know how much you’ve got to spend, aim to spend less than this. This means that if any unexpected costs arise, you can cover them without cutting back in other areas or worrying how you’ll pay the bill.
More wedding planning dilemmas solved
3. If you’re wondering who to include in your day, you’re not alone! Deciding who to include in your wedding party can be a really tough decision. You want people who you know will be utterly reliable, but you might also be under pressure to choose certain family members. Our advice is to think really carefully about who you want with you on the day and don’t issue any invitations until you’re absolutely sure. It’s really easy to get carried away and suddenly find that you’ve got eight bridesmaids and four people giving readings!
There are lots of ways that you can include people in your day. So, think about the roles and responsibilities and choose friends and family who you know will be able to do the job. That said, remember that you can move away from tradition if you want. If the groom’s best friend just has to be the best man but hates the thought of public speaking, ask the groomsmen to give a speech or scrap it altogether. It’s you day so include who and what you like!
Family wedding planning dilemmas
4. Finally, what should you do about family pressures and expectations? You’ll know that as soon as you announce your engagement, everyone will be telling you what to do or what to include. However, it’s important to remember that this is your wedding and you can create the day that works best for you. If you would like your mum to give you away, do it. If you’d like speeches before your meal, do it. In fact, whatever you’d like to do, we say ‘do it’!
One way around being stressed out by family expectations is to not tell them everything about your day. They might not like the thought of your theme or decorations but on the day, they’ll love them. If you don’t want to hear everyone’s opinions, don’t ask. Keep your plans to yourself and tell anyone who asks that you just want to surprise them on the day. Weddings are unique, personal and individual – sometimes that can be tough but it’s always worth it.
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